How many times have you decided everything you think about someone from their social media feed? I am guilty. I see how happy someone looks or how much fun they are having. How perfect their house looks. Are they lying in their feed? Are they really that happy? Are things in their life really always that perfect?
I am a pretty open sharer. I like to share my life and do it fairly often on social media. For me personally, my social media sharing is to serve several purposes. The first one is to share our life with family and friends that wouldn’t get to see whats going on with us other wise. The second is as an opportunity to encourage others and share Jesus’ love. Third is to document our days in my chatbook series. (if you don’t know what chatbooks are, look them up! so wonderful!) So if you look at my Instagram feed, you are going to see lots of regular, every day life pictures. Most of what I post is happy, although I do try to be transparent about the hard stuff too.
Something that I have realized, is how often people make opinions about other peoples lives, solely on their social media. When we only have a portion of the story it is easy to use the little bit we know to start setting expectations for ourselves. I have done this so many times and I have even heard other people say things about me like “you have it all together, you are super mom!” When that is the furthest thing from the truth.
I have looked back at what I post. I wanted to see if I am regularly posting things that aren’t reality. The truth is, I don’t stage my photos (I might move something out of the frame) or my moments, but my social media certainly isn’t giving the whole story.
So here are 6 reasons you shouldn’t judge my life on my social media.
- I don’t share every second of my day. You may see the sweet sleeping toddler but you sure didn’t see the fit he threw right before he fell asleep.
- I enjoy documenting my life in photos. It truly makes me happy. When I see an opportunity for a picture, I usually take it. I don’t post them all. I currently have 10,088 photos and 534 videos on my phone. That is normal right? My point is this, You don’t see it all. At the end of the day, I hand my husband my phone and we look at the pictures from the day as I recap all we did. I have photographed fights, fits, messes, just as much as the hugs, smiles, and snuggles. But I reserve sharing the details. Not posting them doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.
- I save some of my raw emotions, deeper thoughts, and stories of trial for a more personal place. I blog some of my crazy life experiences and stories of trials and over coming but if you really want to get to know me, lets do it in person. I will share and open up about most things in a face to face conversation. Social media isn’t the place to tell all.
- I don’t want to focus on the negative. I have to fight the urge to only see the negative in my life so posting the good stuff helps me to remember those moments. I don’t forget the bad, but it helps me to still see the good. I have had someone say “looks like you had a great day” based on what I posted, but the reality is, I faced so many difficulties that I certainly didn’t stick that day in the great day category BUT I posted the good stuff, despite the bad, because I struggle to see the good when I recap my day.
- I have insecurities. Some of my insecurities keep me from sharing on social media. OR sometimes those insecurities are behind me posting.
- Sometimes the hard parts of my day aren’t mine to share. There are difficulties I face that include other people and sharing that on social media would be telling someone else’s story that isn’t mine to share.
I know that this isn’t the truth for everyone’s social media but I wanted to give perspective as to how dangerous it is to form opinions solely on social media. All of us have reasons why we post what we do, but rarely do we get the whole picture from a post. Before you form an opinion from social media, remember that the person posting is a flawed human, who makes mistakes, faces trials, endures hardships, and is probably just trying to survive life just like you! No kid is perfect, no marriage is perfect, no life is perfect and when we see something that we feel reflects that on social media we can take comfort in knowing we aren’t seeing it all!